First, I got an email from a friend in the SF Bay Area who is traveling to SE Asia for 2 months come January, and it was exciting to see how he felt about the adventures he is about to depart upon. As I was reading his itinerary I could feel the joy I remembered when I set out upon a similar adventure after losing my 2nd high-tech job in 2 years back in 2002. I almost could relive the excitement through his thoughts.
Second, I got a message on MySpace.com from a teenage friend I’ve not heard from in 20 years. Our lives were intertwined for many years from 1975 until 1982, and BOY did those years suffer much pain for both of us. My jaw was sitting on the floor as I read who this message was from. Him writing me on MySpace.com was the 3rd shocking event I had from being a member on this incredible website. Now after so many years I am reunited with a great person in time.
Thirdly, I went to teach class with 1st year students, and as I looked into many of their eyes I could see ambition, happiness, youthful carelessness, and desires to be something that people respected in life. At times it made me feel old, and yet at the same time I was able to see my own incredible accomplishments through life. It’s these same accomplishments which have led me to desire sharing with those who want to better their young lives. While it is many times difficult because these youthful kids don’t have the experience of life’s understandings, it is at the same time enlightening for me to see the ‘light’ that shines in their eyes about where their lives are headed. It’s not only a gift, but a responsibility to be a teacher. I am always humbled by my current chosen career path.
Lastly, I was watching a movie channel which aired “The Two Of Us”; a film by Rob Reiner, staring Michelle Pfifer, Bruce Willis, Betty White, Red Buttons, and many more. It was a story about 2 people who had been married for 15 years and were finding that they had more in common with fighting than about being loving partners. It reminded me so much about how often we let little things get in the way of seeing the truth about life. “I can’t see the forest because of all the TREES!!” Yes, it reminded me of how I have been unsuccessful at relationship in my life. DANG! To be 45 and never have experienced the ability to open myself to another. Now it’s all behind me. Sometimes I feel sad over this reality, but more often than not I see the reality of this existence, and it gives me strength to learn more about my path, and hopefully be the knowledge and guiding light to assist others who might have misgivings about their own situations.
After about 15 minutes of watching this movie I began to realize that the choices I’ve made in my life had led me to be alone. While in itself being alone is not a bad thing, it’s the fact that I feel life is written out before me, so much so that it will not include being with another person in an intimate sense. Hmmm… I’ve become my mother, father, grandmother (on my father’s side), and my sister. Interesting how it seems that many people’s lives are known long before they are even born.
In closing this update, it is important that I note life is incredibly dynamic, and every turn I make around every corner shows me a path of roses. I could choose to see the stony path, or the thorns each rose stem carries, but when I smell those sweet smelling flowers along the way, every other unappealing aspect seems to disappear. I guess what I’m saying is that my life feels like I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth. So many people in my history (and family) became the kind of people you see in either horror movies, or sad stories where they end up in prison or homeless, and I can’t help but feel that the goose with the golden eggs wound up in my barn. Now how to share that wealth with the rest of the world? ![]()
I love y’all more than words will ever say, and certainly more than I can ever let you know without being absurd or mushy.
Thanks for your loving friendship, and I will always feel humbled by the life y’all have helped me to live. I couldn’t be happier!
– Cole
”Life is a journey. Enjoy the trip.”